Lesson one in being awesome.

Lesson one in being awesome: Love yourself like no other.

Love yourself without being a narcissist. This doesn't come naturally. A lot of people tend to have a low perception of themselves as soon as they are old enough to realize they have flaws. This is truly unfortunate, however, with work it can be reversed.

You have to pretend you love yourself before you can actually truly love yourself. Talk to yourself in your mind in a positive way. When you get ready to go out, think to yourself that you look good, even if you don't mean it. Tell yourself that you are attractive. Tell yourself you have good qualities to share with people. Tell yourself that you love yourself. This is the first part in having good self perception.

When subjects of self esteem come up, tell people that you have a good one. Even if you kind of don't. Tell people what you've been telling yourself and with work and practice, your mindset will change. You will love yourself, you will have a good self esteem, and without those things you have very little. If you don't love yourself, it's hard to respect yourself, if you don't respect yourself, it's hard for other people to.

This may sound like you're just lying to yourself, you're pretending to be happy. That's not the case though, it just takes a lot of work to knock the negative ways out of you. When you get into your comfort zone, you will honestly mean, how you feel about yourself.

Imagine having the same friend since you were born, one person shoved in your face everyday, you would learn to hate that person because you start to focus on their flaws and it begins to be easier to see bad than good. You are that person to yourself. But in a similar way if you look at that person from day one and think of all the good things they're done for you, all the times they've helped you and all the things that you like about that person, they will become someone you admire and appreciate. Make your mind focus on the good aspects of you.

Finally, put yourself out there as a self loving, positive, happy individual and your awesome will shine through.